Some people need to get a life!

I love my blog

** Warning – Ranting and venting post ahead **

I am a blogger. I love blogging. I love to write. Being a blogger has not only afforded me some wonderful and once-in-a-lifetime opportunities but also some friends that I love dearly. I am happy and honored to not only call other bloggers my friend, but also PR reps and publicists. Even if I never meet these people in person, they are still very much friends to me.

Over the years the blogging world (or “blogoshere” as some people refer to it as) has exploded. It seems like there are hundreds of blogs popping up every day. Some people blog to keep family and friends up to date on their lives, other people blog about things they are passionate about like crafts or sports. Even one time I found a blog of a guy that posted all the times he did a bet on the kentucky derby, for the last 10 years. Whatever reason people have to start a blog is perfectly fine with me. I love reading other people’s blogs. I personally subscribe to dozens of blogs that I read as often as I can.

Most bloggers that I know are wonderful people. I know mom bloggers, female bloggers, dad bloggers and male bloggers. I love how there is an opportunity for anyone who loves to write to blog.

There are also people who clearly should NOT be blogging. Instead of writing a blog to entertain, enlighten or educate people they use their blogs to spread lies and hatred. Usually those people are bitter and jealous of the success of other bloggers. Either that or their lives are so miserable that they want to spread their misery to as many people as they can. These people need to get a life!

Some bloggers go so far as to make garbage up just to drum up traffic and to get people talking about their website or blog post, even if it comes at the expense of innocent people.

It recently came to my attention that some bloggers looking for attention decided to write posts to blast an innocent person – someone I know well – all for the sake of some notoriety.

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I cannot believe that adults and so called professionals would make up stuff about people they don’t know, without getting their facts right, and post blasphemous things. Exactly what do they think they are accomplishing by doing that? Traffic? Having people talking about you and your post? Is that really worth spreading lies and rumors about someone? I think that makes you a horrible person if you drag someone through the mud just for the sake of a few points on your Klout score and an extra Twitter follower or two.

If you read a lot of blogs like I do and come across a post that blasts someone about something, what do you do? Do you take what the bloggers has to say as “facts”, or do you do your own investigating? Do you stop and think that there are two sides to every story? Do you believe everything the blogger has to say? What gives that blogger the authority to make such claims? Are they an expert or something?

Take everything you read with a grain of salt and always keep it in your mind that not everything you read online is the truth and that there ARE bloggers out there that are bitter and jealous of other bloggers and will do anything they can to boost themselves into the stratosphere, even at the expense of others.

It makes me sad to think that there are so-called adults who act like the big bullies on the playground and try and push and shove people out of their way, and put people down, just for their own personal gain or amusement.

If you read a lot of blogs and happen to come across a blog post one day that goes off and blasts someone you don’t know, about a situation you know nothing about, don’t always believe what you read. Chances are it’s just their lame attempt to bring traffic to their site and nothing more.




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About Kimberly

Kimberly Vetrano resides in the suburbs of New York City with her family and "mini zoo" consisting of five cats, a dog and a Goldfish. Kimberly is a teacher's assistant for a Kindergarten class. When she is not working or blogging, Kimberly enjoys taking photos of nature and hanging out with family and friends.


  1. A few years ago someone accused another blogger of stealing her designs. I looked at the accused designs. although some of the themes were the same they both have two totally different artistic styles. Nobody would think the designs were drawn by the same person.

    The question came up if you draw a Vespa doesn’t mean I can’t draw one too? I was thinking the same thing. If you draw a cupcake first . Sell your design first. Does that mean that I can’t dell the cupcake design I made that looks totally different from yours because you did that theme first? There was a lot of drama for a while. I ended up signing up my the accused newsletter because I thought the accuser when over the line.

  2. I love it! Kimberly you just said what many other people don’t have the courage to say. I am shocked by some of these so called “Mommy Bloggers” behavior. I read a lot of blogs and at times I am shocked by their straight out Bullying of other bloggers. When is it ok for one person to tell everyone else how they should act, what they should post and promote on their blog. That is what makes each blog unique, they can write about what they want. Not what some high and mighty mommy blogger tells them. I am in awe when I see these are the same bloggers that will have the nerve to write a post about how you can help stop bullying. Hello! You are a bully, how can you write that post.

    Thank you for having the courage to stand up and say Stop!
    One of the many reasons we love your blog!!

  3. april yedinak says:

    I have seen this happen many times in the few years I have been reading blogs. If I am interested, then I do research as best I can to get all sides of the story. I am sure you will find it shocking that almost every time some blogger was going on a tear about someone stealing their content, copying them, talking smack, etc. that it turned out to be nonsense. Sadder still though were all the comments from readers that went along with the mob and bashed the accused. I am not a sheep…I don’t know why so many people are content to live like one.

  4. Tami Valentine says:

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m not a blogger, but I’m a reader. I’m fairly new at this, about a year, and I came across a conversation that was on FB, knocking down this person, saying this and that. I looked up more on those bloggers and made a mental note to “stay away from them”!
    It’s far too easier for people to complain about things than to write something nice, at least that’s what THEY think. I’d be afraid to have any contact with these bloggers as I wouldn’t be able to trust them. Some of them read like they were cliques back in high school….it’s sad! Some people just don’t ever grow up.

  5. Sandy VanHoey says:

    I’m not a blogger but I too read a lot of blogs. I haven’t ran across this yet but had I, guess I’d figure someone just has a chip on their shoulder about something. There’s really no need in doing this to anyone else and I personally think it makes you look very small as a person. My feelings are…it won’t get them very far…seems Karma always comes back to get us.

  6. Brutus Duffy says:

    I subscribe to quite a few blogs, but I would never subscribe to one that puts out trash and degrades/defames other people. I think If you have a blog and are making money from that blog, it is unprofessional.
    I hope your friend isn’t too upset by what what some mororn says about her blog. Karma is a *itch and those jealous bloggers will get theirs on due time.
    BTW , we think your blog ROCKS! 🙂

  7. As a follower and not a blogger, I have run across the occasional bashing you’re talking about. In that case, I exercise my power to stop reading! Sometimes I’ll stop after the first sentence, because there’s absolutely no point in reading further. I find no pleasure in reading things that are negative or mean–or poorly written, for that matter. If the bashing or bad writing is bad enough, I’ll unsubscribe (if I’ve got an email or RSS subscription) or unfollow.

    Thanks for this post. I appreciate your speaking out.

  8. how rude. some people are just awful
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  9. I read blogs mostly to enter contests, some for fun. I have a large salt shaker on my desk and have lots of grains of salt to take with the blogs.

    Thumper’s mother: If you can’t say somethin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all

  10. There are always going to be some people, whether in real life or online, that feel the need to bully and put others down to try to make themselves feel good. I follow a large variety of blogs but would never follow any of these bullies and if a site that I had followed started to do these things, I would very quickly unfollow.

  11. I totally agree with his and I can think of one blogger that done this to a very nice man. She was a wench on how she acted.

  12. jamie braun says:

    i can gladly say that I have never came across someone bashing another blogger on any of the blogs I follow. Im just lucky enough to follow lovely ladies like you, that wouldnt do such a thing..if I did though, I would probably unfollow that blog. there is no need for nonsense like that and i just dont have time for it

  13. Natalie J Vandenberghe says:

    Yours is the second post I’ve read tonight–I presume about the same incident. I’m not a blogger and I’ve only been using social media for about three years. I have been dismayed on many occasions when I observed such nastiness. I don’t believe everything I read, but it’s hard not to be curious–not being familiar with the original post. Glad you wrote something educational and uplifting (maybe it will get people to think!)

  14. Robin Wilson says:

    I have not run across this with blogs that I read, but I did run across it with at least one FB page that uses its followers for its own gain, and these ppl don’t even realize it! I was just sickened by the “crap” that was going on within this page. It only took a few posts before I quickly “unliked”. I have no prob saying that I read a lot of blogs and I enter a lot of giveaways. Times are hard, I am happy for the bloggers that get compensation for their work, as if I can win some of their giveaways I will be able to give my family a Christmas perhaps this year ~ better than the last. I thank you for what you do!

  15. Janet W. says:

    It really is crazy how people hide behind social media to be a bully! These blogs that spread lies won’t be around for very long. Plus, no one wants to hear negativity all the time.

  16. I agree if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all. Some people cant get any attention unless they do it in a negative way to sparkle alot of talk. I would not visit a blog if it did this. There is no reason for it. thats not what I want in a blog.

  17. The world is become a really mean place. Have you noticed? Some people hide behind the anonymity of the internet, but others don’t care if their name is attached to mean posts and comments. I work in TV news, too, so I’m exposed to the aftermath of meanness every day, from the person arrested for raping a mentally and physically disabled woman to cruelty to animals, to murder. I spend a lot of time wondering what makes people do or say those mean-spirited or even downright evil things. Of course, I don’t have an answer. Just sharing that mean and deceitful bloggers are just a small portion of the overall darkness in the world right now.
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  18. Lalita Malone says:

    I don’t read any negative blogs. Only the ones I can learn from. I learned a lot about you from your blog and how some people actually can relate to each other even if it’s just a common interest. Thanks for just putting out the positive vibe and fun information for us mamas who don’t want to write a b blog but respect those who do!
    Thanks Kimberly!

  19. kelly willis says:

    don’t worry about other people I think you do a great job and work hard at what you do

  20. Blogging is supposed to be about sharing yourself and having fun just being creative- thats why I love it! This is so sad 🙁
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  21. Sara Fletcher says:

    I like that you brought up this topic. Even though in general it is unprofessional to publicly talk about anyone, sometimes it is in defense of yourself & sometimes it is purely in retaliation to what you may have felt as insulting. Whatever the reason or forum involved, someone totally unrelated to the matter should never just jump on the bandwagon.

  22. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Blogging should put something GOOD into the world. A contribution of some value. Blasting others hardly counts.
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  23. Karen Glatt says:

    I am sorry to say that there are bloggers out there who lie and are dishonest and they think that this is okay! Why have a blog if you are going to have giveaways and then tell a person they won, but lie and never give them their prize! I was treated so unfairly and rude when I asked a blogger, who has a large following why they told me I won something, and then never gave it to me. She lied! And she wonders whey people are telling her off! I think that there are some dishonest bloggers out there!

  24. Olivia Rubin says:

    I think what I found difficult when reading blogs was reading the writers political opinion during the Presidential Election. I don’t otherwise really bother to read someone’s opinion about random topics. I read reviews, and if its political i go to the news. But I have learned that the same people that were mean as kids, just get older and eventually live amongst us as adults and then they become old and are in our nursing homes bullying in their as well.