When should a teenage boy start to shave?


Our son turned 13 years old a few months ago. It’s hard to believe that my little boy is on his way to becoming a man.

My “baby” boy was born 9 weeks premature. He was only 2 1/2 pounds and 15″ at birth. He had to stay in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit) until he was 33 days old. He left the hospital weighing only 4 pounds. By the grace of God he was healthy. He had his quirks (he required two years of physical and occupational therapies, speech therapy and leg braces), but he’s OK now. With preemies there are a lot of things that can go wrong. We were lucky.

Here is a photo of our son taken the day he came home from the hospital (33 days old). He was no bigger then a standard size football. In the next picture he’s 10 months old sitting next to the same football. If you look carefully you can see his leg braces.

M and Football

10 months

In case you didn’t notice we’re Dallas Cowboys fans. Our son was going to be named Dallas up until the very moment he was born, then we changed it. He has two middle names, one of which is Dallas. 🙂

I’m glad he’s a healthy teenager. Although he is eating us out of house and home. I swear he would eat the walls and furniture if it was possible. He’s an eating machine. He also grew so quickly that he’s covered in stretch marks. Who knew you got stretch marks from growing taller.

When my husband was my son’s age he had a full blown mustache. Our son has a bit of a mustache (you can sort of see the little lines above his lip in the top photo). It’s not overly noticeable. It looks more like he drank chocolate milk (a milk mustache).

My husband feels he should start shaving. He wants to teach him how to shave his mustache. I have been arguing that he’s not ready for that yet. After all, his mustache is barely visible and he has no other facial hair (beard). Why rush it?

I’m wondering if my husband is just excited to teach him how to shave, more so then he has a need to shave. Maybe it’s a man thing? Maybe guys get a kick out of stuff like that, just like a mom would teaching her daughter how to apply make up for the first time.

I’m just worried that if he shaves now his mustache will come in thicker and darker. He’s my baby boy! I can’t see him with a full blow mustache. That would just be too weird.

Some men shave every day. My dad did. It was a daily ritual for him. He would never consider using an electric razor. No way! Not my dad. He did it the old fashioned way. He used a shaving brush and shave soap, along with his favorite razor. I don’t really know what razor it was. All I know is that he had it for many years. I’m assuming he replaced the blade often.

van de Hagen Shave Set

We have a very special shaving “kit” available to our son when he is finally ready to make that step into adulthood and start shaving. The kit is from van der Hagen Enterprises (yes, part of the name is NOT capitalized).

Van der Hagen has more then a hundred years experience in manufacturing premium shaving products for men. This family owned company makes really cool retro inspired products including shaving brushes. Their shaving brushes are made with quality badger and boar bristle brushes. They also carry monogrammed shaving bowls, post shave balms and lotions, face scrub, and more.

You can tell that the brushes are a good quality just by the look and feel of them. I even pulled on the bristles to see if any came out. One lone bristle (hair) did, but considering the amount of pulling I did I think that is certainly reasonable.

For over 20 years the company has also been world’s premier specialty bar soap manufacturer. Each van der Hagen soap is kettle processed and handmade with the highest grade fatty acids and pure ingredients like Mango, Cocoa Butter, and Glycerin. Their soaps are available in scented and unscented.

I love the soap. It looks cool. I wonder if ladies can use stuff like this to shave their legs with. I would must rather use a quality soap then a .99 cent can of shaving cream.

Van der Hagen offers men products to deliver a cushioned, precise and functional shave at an affordable price.

“van der Hagen shave products aren’t designed  with any gimmick in mind,” says Marty van der Hagen, President of van der Hagen Enterprises. “For  centuries, men have been using a self-lathering shave soap and brush to get the shave they desire; there was  never a need for fancy gel-to-foam creams then and there still isn’t now. Our consensus is if it was good enough for  your grandfather, it is good enough for you. Why fix what was never broken to begin with?”

Despite the brand’s old timey feel, van der  Hagen Enterprises’ back to basics approach is not for quirks, but for functionality. Research shows that applying a  shave soap with brush not only exfoliates skin, but it also lifts whiskers in a way which results in a much closer
and more cushioned shave. In addition, van der Hagen Enterprises’ kettle processed shave soaps and  formulas make for superior razor glide, rinse clean, and won’t clog razors or pores. Much like a well-poured  draft beer, van der Hagen’s shave suite gives men a taste of the frothy, consistent, and smooth.

“All of our soaps are made a batch at a time  from quality, American-made ingredients in our Texas-based factory,” says van der Hagen. “However, while we  have maintained the time-tested, quality-driven hand-made process of the past, we have also incorporated  many modern technologies to ensure our products are nonirritating, non-comedogenic, and as pure as possible.”

My dad used to use the shaving soap and the brush. It was the only thing he ever used. I think it goes along with that logic that “If it’s not broke, don’t fix it”. Another words, if he’s able to get a perfect shave each and every time, why would he want to change to another product? Not only that, the shaving soap lasts a lot longer then a can of shaving cream, and it’s more eco-friendly because you don’t have to toss out cans on a weekly basis.

My husband tells me that his father used the shaving brush and soap too. After seeing the special van der Hagen set we have for our son he’s now curious about it too. I plan on getting him a set for Father’s Day next month. We already gave the set to our son so I don’t want to take it back from him and give it to my husband.

I also think that having something special and unique like the shaving brush and soap from van de Hagen makes that step into manhood that much more special. For girls stepping into womanhood means wearing a bra and make up. Boys really don’t have much except for shaving, so why not make it special and give your teenage sun a van de Hagen set when he’s ready to make that transition.

van der Hagen luxury shaving set

For now the set sits on his dresser. I know he must think about using it, but I also think he’s nervous about the first time he shaves. He also knows from my husband that he might have to shave on a daily basis. He’s a teenager and a lazy one at that. I can’t imagine him shaving every morning. Not to mention we only have one bathroom and the mornings are crazy as you can imagine with everyone getting ready for work and school. I think he just needs to hold off. With any luck we’ll have a house by the end of the year and hopefully more than one bathroom. Then he can explore the wonderful (or not so wonderful?) world of shaving.

Do you have a son or grandson? How old was he when he first started to shave? If you are a man reading this post, when was your first time? Are you glad you shaved at the age/time that you did, or do you regret it and wish you held off a year or two longer? I’m curious to know.

Feel free to leave feedback. I always love to hear what my readers have to say.

For more information about van der Hagen visit http://vdhent.com. I don’t see a Facebook or Twitter page for the brand. If you happen across one please let me know so I can share the link with my reader.

van der Hagen logo


*I recieved a free product sample in order to do this review. There was no compensation. The opinions expressed are my own unless otherwise noted.  

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About Kimberly

Kimberly Vetrano resides in the suburbs of New York City with her family and "mini zoo" consisting of five cats, a dog and a Goldfish. Kimberly is a teacher's assistant for a Kindergarten class. When she is not working or blogging, Kimberly enjoys taking photos of nature and hanging out with family and friends.


  1. My son is 11 and I’m not looking forward to puberty but once facial hair does start to come in I’ll probably ask hubs to teach him to shave right away. There’s no point in holding off on it.
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  2. Selene M. says:

    Obviously, the boy needs to be old enough to be responsible for his safety when shaving.

    That said, the decision should be when it’s important to him and his self-esteem, which is usually very fragile in the early teen years, and not at some pre-set age. As parents, it’s hard to see our children taking on adult ways, but it’s part of growing up and must be met head on.