**THIS IS A GUEST POST. The opinions expressed are that of the author’s and do not necessarily reflect my own.
Who would not want to have a healthy relationship? The problem is many couples don’t know how to build one.
The first few months can be the most challenging part of any relationship. The infatuation and attraction you feel towards your partner are sometimes misinterpreted as true love resulting from being obsessive. Because of this, the relationship becomes toxic and leads to misunderstandings and separation.
In this article, we have included tips on building a healthy relationship that can help couples remain in love and keep their relationship stronger.
Love Yourself First
Have you heard of the sayings, “You can’t love someone if you don’t love yourself first”? Some people say it is being selfish. But according to psychologists, it is the easiest way to do so you can reciprocate your love to your partner. If there is one relationship that is consistent in your life, it’s your relationship to yourself.
One way to love yourself is to listen to yourself and understand. You have to pay attention to how you talk to yourself. Sometimes, destiny is showing something, but you are just ignoring it. Listen to yourself. It will help if you give importance to how you talk to yourself to cultivate deeper self-love.
Once you learn to love yourself, you can easily love others without restrictions, hesitations, conditions, and doubts.
Keep Your Line of Communication Open
Everybody knows that part of a healthy relationship is good communication. Conversely, one of the most common causes of an unhealthy relationship is poor communication. Once your partner stops communicating well, it stresses you and disconnects the tie that binds you. This may sound old-fashioned, but as long as you communicate properly with each other, you can deal with any problem your relationship will encounter.
Tell your partner what you need, and do not let him guess. Also, you don’t need a mediator to talk things over. Only the two of you can deal with your situation. Assuming that your partner knows what you think and need is not a good practice. It will not help improve your relationship. Your partner is not a mind-reader. It is better to tell him straight what you need to avoid misunderstanding that might lead to a serious problem.
You have to be a good listener. Communication is a two-way process. Listen to what your partner is trying to tell you. By doing this, he will feel valued and understood, thus building a deeper and better relationship. Being a good listener does not mean you agree with your partner or are influenced by him. There is a big difference between hearing what he says and listening. If you listen, you can feel the emotion he is trying to communicate.
Compromise
It is hard to build a healthy relationship if you don’t know how to give. Some situations require both of you to compromise. It does not mean that you sacrifice everything and give everything to your partner. You have to learn when it is better to give and understand the situation and when it is best to get what you want.
Equality in a relationship is very vital in keeping it strong. Discuss with your partner if you feel an unbalanced compromise. Evaluate and assess the situation and think about not just what will benefit you but for the good of your relationship.
Be Prepared
Never expect a perfect relationship as there is no such thing. There will be problems and issues you and your partner need to deal with along the way. Make sure you recognize what is essential to your partner and vice versa. A one-way relationship will never work out. Learn to accept that in every relationship, there are ups and downs.
The two of you can’t be on the same page. Sometimes one is struggling and having issues at work that stresses him. Understanding the situation your partner is going through is one way of keeping the relationship healthy. Consider yourself to be in his position and think about what you would feel. If he wants to be alone, let him be. Once the situation mellows down, wait for him to open up. Do not force him. It will not help at all.
Final thoughts
There are lots of things that you can do to keep your relationship healthy. First, respect one another and learn to listen. Remember, a relationship involves two individuals, so it will never work out if one is dominant and the other is subordinate.
Be open to one another but know your limitations. Talk to each other often and give time no matter how busy you are. Keep the love burning and put God at the center of your relationship. With these factors, you will indeed have a lasting and happy relationship.
About the author;
ori Wade is a content writer for sylviecollection.com who is interested in a wide range of spheres from wedding design and fashion trends to wedding business and sharing her ideas. If you are interested in relationships, weddings & fashion, you can find her on Twitter and LinkedIn.