A long time ago, back in the stone age, when I was in high school, I would spend every Friday and Saturday night at The Dungeon. The Dungeon was a non-alcoholic, under 21 dance club. My friends and I would go there every weekend. Back then then it was THE place to be.
The Dungeon was all about dancing. I’m sure people were there to hook up and to scope out the hotties, but for me and my friends, it was all about the dancing. We would dance the night away.
Up until my mid-20’s I used to go out dancing almost every weekend. I had a friend name Lisa and we wouldn’t think twice about hopping in the car at 11:00 PM on a Friday night and drive into NYC to go dancing.
I am NOT a good dancer. I never was and probably never will be. But that was OK with me. I just loved to dance. I had such a great time when I was on the dance floor. It was a lot of fun.
When I got married the dancing stopped. I was married so there was no need for me to be hanging out in dance clubs with my single friends. My husband also hates clubs and I have only seen him dance ONCE for just a few seconds. Dancing is not his forte.
I really miss dancing. Often when I’m home alone and a great songs comes on I’ll start dancing around my living room. Try and picture a short, obese, 4o something dancing around her living room. Not exactly a pretty sight.
Earlier today I was running some errands. A song came on the radio that is great to dance to, Party Rock Anthem by LMFAO. Are you familiar with that song? Here is the video just in case.
I swear, every time I hear this song I want to get up and dance just like they do in the video (although I think I would look more goofy then they do). I could never move like THAT.
This song just has a very infectious beat to it. Even when I’m driving in the car and the song comes on I find myself bopping around in my seat at red lights.
Another song I think is an ideal song to dance to is Moves Like Jagger by Maroon 5.
When I hear songs like this it makes me miss dancing at clubs. I really wish I could go back to a club and dance again. The sad thing is that I would be beyond self-conscious about it. As I mentioned I’m in my 40’s and obese. I’m not exactly “club material”.
My husband’s cousins, who are in their early 20’s, go out dancing at clubs often. I see pictures of them on their Facebook pages. I would love to go with them but I know I would feel so out of place. I would definetly stick out. I also wouldn’t want to be the butt of jokes.
I know I can’t dance. Just like I can’t sing. Although I do sing when no one is around, or in front of my kids. I won’t sing in front of my husband. I’m too embarrassed. My kids on the other hand have heard me sing all their lives so they don’t really know just how awful I sound. 🙂
Does anyone who is my age (40-something) ever go dancing? I’m not talking ballroom-type dancing (although that sounds like fun too). I’m talking about a club that plays current dance music? I’m just curious if, after a certain age, it’s “taboo” to show up in a dance club.
I really want to dance. Too bad Dancing with the Stars didn’t have a spin off show where stars danced with ordinary people. That would be fun! I’d like to be on a show like that. Hugh Jackman would make a great partner for me. ♥
Do you ever find yourself wanting to “bust a move” and dance? Are you a “closet dancer” like me (where no one ever sees you) or do you actually go out to a club? I’m curious to know.
Kimberly
Lori B says
Also an overweight 40 something mommy here..and YES sometimes I bust a move in the kitchen! Usually it’s more of a country line dance move, but still makes my son light up and want to dance with me. And ultimately, to me, that’s all that matters.
The one thing I do like about getting older is learning to slough off the notions that I need to worry about what other people think of me. Frankly, I don’t care. Now that said, I don’t go out to clubs any more because it’s just not my scene. I’d rather hang out at a bar with friends and good live music. (Again, usually country.) And I definitely will get up and dance if they’re playing a song I love. If I notice some young chippies making fun of me, I may laugh in their face as I flip them off. (oops! …that wasn’t very mommylike thing to say..but there it is!) 😉
Darlene 'Dee' Bishop @Frugal Fancy says
As always, I find more and more that we have in common, Kimberly! ;o) I LOVE to dance, too! If I had been encouraged as a child, I would have loved to be a professional dancer, but that wasn’t done in my home. Being a decade older than you, I danced to disco songs and 70’s hits, but I wasn’t the best dancer in the world. I’m not coordinated, for one thing. If someone shows me step-by-step and I can get the moves in my head, I can do them. But I love dancing, regardless! We don’t go to clubs either, but would love to find a dance video that I could use at home… GREAT exercise!!
Dee
Susan says
Kimberly,
Recently, I read that as we grow older we tend to stop doing fun things. Children naturally play. As we grow older we play less and less reducing the fun in our lives. Your story illustrates this theory perfectly.
I am trying to incorporate fun into my life. Easier said than done.
Dance. It’s that easy.
Teresa says
I to like to dance but I find I dance with the kids more then anyone else. I know I’m not a good dancer, but the kids and me have fun.
Living, Learning, Eating says
I love dancing! I’m no so good at it either, though. 😛
Vianey says
I LOVE dancing but my husband doesn’t. I’ve been craving a good dance for a while and just haven’t found any friends that LOVE it as much as I do. The way I see it is: if you’re having fun on the dance floor, then you know how to dance. HA!!!!! I just love it, ALWAYS have but people have a different views of what dancing is so although I don’t look all spastic on the dance floor, I have fun- my way. LMAO!!!! For now, it’ll have to suffice that I take my little ones to mother/daughter and mother/son dances.