When I was younger (pre-marriage) I always heard that spouses never get along with their in-laws. My Dad seemed to get along great with my mom’s parents, however my mom hated my dad’s mother. There are even shows that highlight horrible in-laws, so one would assume that having in-laws was not such a great thing.
I loved my mother in law. She was a great woman. She passed away several years ago. I never met my husband’s father. He passed away when my husband was 11 but I have a feeling I would have loved him too.
My mother never liked my husband. She not no valid reason to dislike him either. She wasn’t mean to him or anything like that, but she certainly didn’t welcome him with open arms either. I wish I knew why. He NEVER gave her any reason not to like him. Everyone else loves my husband. In fact he gets along beautifully with my father. It’s just for some odd reason my mom didn’t like him. She also passed away several years ago so I’ll never know the reasons why.
I guess having in-laws is great for some people and not-so-great for others. I think for some people the worst kind of in-laws to have are the kind that like to butt in on your life and offer you thier “.02 cents” on everything wheter you want it or not. Case in point the Jonas brother parents as seen on the new reality show, Married to Jonas.
Married to Jonas follows the lives of the oldest Jonas brother, Kevin, and his wife Danielle whom he married in 2009. The young couple is settling into married suburban life, but they still have to deal with one thing – the in-laws.
Danielle comes from a big Italian family. Her parents, especially her father, are loud and outspoken, but in a loveable way. I actually like Danielle’s dad. He seems like he’s be a fun father in law to have.
Kevin’s parents on the other hand seem like they are the kind of in-laws you don’t want to have. They are used to the Hollywood scene and love to mico-manage every aspect of their son’s lives, including Joe and Nick, Kevin’s two younger brothers. They have even gone so far as to suggest that the young couple hold off having children until after the Jonas Brothers revive their careers and finish going on a world tour. That really rubbed me the wrong way. Kevin and Danielle are grown ups and no one has a right to dictat to them when they can have children.ย I thought that was pretty rude of them to even suggest that.
I understand that raising an infant on your own while your husband is trotting around the world on tour is not ideal, but it’s not impossible either. Plenty of woman do it. Kevin also doesn’t have to go on tour. I’m sure Joe and Nick can succeed without their brother. Nick already does very well on Broadway. Maybe it’s time for Kevin to hang up his microphone and get a regular 9-5 job.
I’ve watched the first two episodes. I really like Danielle. She seems like a super sweet girl. Her sisters and parents seem really down to Earth too. I think Kevin is a decent young man too. I wish he’d stand up to his parents more. He is a grown man and they don’t have a right to tell him what to do. He also seems like he’s make a great father. He went so far as throw a pre-prom party for Danielle’s younger sister and went around taking photos as if he was a proud papa.
Danielle also seems overly sweet. She needs to get a little bit of a backbone and stand up to her in-laws too. I understand that no one wants to make waves, but if it effects your overall happiness you need to stand up for your rights.
If you would like to check out Married to Jonas it airs on E! at 10:00 PM on Sunday nights. Check your local listings for the channel.
To learn more about the show, “meet the family” and check out personal photos from Kevin and Danielle visit www.EOnline.com/shows/Jonas. You can also follow the show on Twitter (@MarriedtoJonas) or join in on the conversation using the hashtag #MTJ. You can also follow the film on Facebook, www.Facebook.com/MarriedtoJonas.
To help you surive your in-laws I have a “In-Law Survival Kit” to give to a lucky reader. The kit includes;
- Stress Relief – Eucalyptus Spearmint Sugar Scrubย (It makes your skin oh-so-soft)
- Bliss Fabulous Skin-Reviving Rubberizing masks
- Soothing Herbal Tea (A very nice tea to relax and unwind with)
- Aromatherapy Spa Stress Relief – Shea Butter & Cedarwood Reed Diffuser (This smells SO GOOD!!!!!!)
- $15 iTunes Gift Card
- EarPollution Plugz Headphones
The kit can double as a teenager survival kit too. Ha Ha.
This giveaway is open to US residents only and will end at 12:01 AM (EST) on September 12, 2012. The winner will be chosen at ranomย using a random number generator from all eligible entries. The winner will be notified via e-mail and will have three days to reply or a new winner will be chosen.
To enter please leave a comment on this post and share a little bit abour your in-laws (no worries – they won’t find out :-)). Do you get along? Do you have any tips for surviving your in-laws? – OR –ย If you have watched the show, Married to Jonas, leave a comment and share with me your thoughts about the show.
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Kimberly
*I was not compensated for this post however I did recieve free products samples that are the same as the prize package for my participation. The opinions expressed are my own and are not influenced in any way.
Donna C says
Distance is great to keep the in-laws at bay!
Cindy @MomMaven says
I used to be great friends with my mother-in-law for the first 10 years of our marriage. Then she totally changed, kicked my husband and I out of the family business and lets just say things have been strained ever since.
I LOVE Married to Jonas and I never watch this kind of reality show. I am a Jonas Brothers fan for years so I had to check it out.
Barbara S says
I’ve been married for 16 years and my in-laws are wonderful….but trying. We butt heads on most things. We are like Night & Day. They are a 360 degree difference from my parents (rest their souls) so if I win this I will use it ALOT!
Maria B says
I’ve only seen one episode of the show so far – the one where Danielle’s younger sister was getting ready for prom. I don’t usually go for shows quite like that, but I have to admit that it did draw me in. I’ve heard so many rumors and gossip surrounding Kevin and Danielle’s marriage so I wanted to see for myself what their interaction was like. It seemed very sweet!
Thank you for the chance to win!
Jessica To says
I have not seen this show yet, but it is one that that I really want to see. I am a Jonas Brothers fan so I have been trying to catch an episode!
Ashley S says
I actually like my in-laws. But it’s very important to give yourself space from them and everyone needs to know their boundaries ๐
Claire says
I haven’t watched it, but I’d really like to!!
Amber L says
I have been so blessed with my Mother-in-law. She is an incredible woman! I’ve gone to her so many times, especially in the first year of my marriage for advice. One night I even called her at 3 AM to ask her to come over & talk & she did happily! She is wonderful & I’m so lucky to have married into her family!
Maureen says
I have seen the previews for the show. Would be nice to see but I have not seen it yet.
Tara Liebing says
I don’t really talk to my inlaws they never sent our son a card or gift for any holiday/bday(he’s 8). And when my fiancee was dying of cancer his mom only came because she wanted his pain meds wheb he didn’t give him to her she left. That was 6 years ago and haven’t seen her since. So I kinda lost all respect for her after that.
Lauren says
I’m not married so I don’t have any personal advice, but i have watched the show and really enjoy it. I understand what you mean about the families too. While I like Danielle’s family, I think they need to respect their privacy a bit better…However, Kevin’s family did seem much harsher, with very few personal boundaries when dealing with Danielle.
Jessie C. says
We don’t get together often because of the distance, it’s a great thing I think.
chantal ronchetto says
my father-in-law has passed and my M-I-L is A LOT like Marie on Everybody loves Raymond. Complements and puts you down all at the same time.
Deb K says
I try not to talk to mine,as she is a mean old woman and never has anything nice to say!
Nancy says
My in-laws are no longer alive, but we had a great relationship.
Krista Grandstaff says
In laws are just the older representation of the person you’ve chosen to spend your time with…lol..so look closely and see if that’s what you want to take on ๐
Jackie says
Not the greatest relationship with the in-laws. Not because I havent tried…
Megan says
Mine aren’t the greatest, but we hardly ever see them, so it’s mostly not an issue.
Kimberly Schotz says
I saw the show and thought it was cute. My late father in law was an awesome man. My husbands mother…..not so much, but I love his stepmother.
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Karry says
No I havent seen the show but would like to.
deb c says
I have no tips. My inlaws had both passed away before I married my husband.
debbie says
I just avoided them when I had them. They weren’t very nice to me, but fawned all over him.
Laura says
I love my inlaws. There is a pretty big age difference in his parents and mine. My parents are actually closer in age to his grandparents, so that is different, but certainly not weird! We’re both very fortunate to have a good relationship with our in laws.
Jennifer B says
I only have a mother in law, she is a great lady and we get along real well
olivia rubin says
Okay I have no in-laws and just heard about the show. I dont know why one would do this, well Money…i guess that is why i entered too…itunes money and a great gift basket
Melissa@Melissa's Midnight Musings says
I’m not married (yet) but my boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years, and his parents are wonderful. I used to be really shy around them, but I’m not so shy now.
Cheryl Free says
I don’t have in-laws and I haven’t watched watched Married to Jonas ๐ *Thanks* for the giveaway!
Patricia Wojnar Crowley says
My mother in law used to love making me blush!
Cathy says
I haven’t seen the show yet, it sounds good!
Lisa F. says
I don’t have in-laws, but this kit can work well for family events! ๐
Stephanie Grant says
I’m sad to say that my relationship with my in-laws is a hate-hate relationship…I have never really felt like I belong to that part of the family and it seems like my husbands sisters always want to try to cause trouble between my husband and I. My best adivce would be to just be yourself…don’t try to be someone you are not just beacuse that is what they want you to be….your spouce married you for you not for who their family wanted you to be.
april yedinak says
My MIL and I had a hate-hate relationship and we haven’t spoken in 20 years.
LaTanya says
I love the Jonas show.
Marci says
I have wonderful in-laws. Very loving and supportive!
Jayne G says
My tips for getting along with in-laws are to be nice and to be patient. Haven’t seen the show yet.
tam childers says
love my mother in law but I could use the headphones for my father in law – non stop talker.
Les Johnson says
I haven’t seen the show yet, but I would like to.
Amanda Hoffman says
my boyfriends parents arent bad i like them
Shannon F. says
I love my in-laws so I have no advice and I’ve seen the show and I was pleasantly surprised! They are truly likable!
Teh Doll says
I have amazing inlaws .. I really lucked out.. She is my friend more then my mother in law!
soha molina says
My in laws have both passed on but they were very nice.
Lindley A says
I have seen the show and thought it was pretty entertaining, although the Jonas’ mom is a little bit much for me. My mother-in-law and I get along just fine because she doesn’t stick her nose in our business and she is a great cook!
Tabathia B says
I can’t stand my dh mother. When we first met she talked around me and then finally acknowledged me that should have been a premonition of things to come and i tried I really did but all she does it talk about people (mainly me) and put people down
Michele says
Besides canceling our wedding behind our back (claiming we gave them “permission” to do so — which we obviously did not, and why would we stop talking to them over it if he had?!), they held our dog hostage to make us let them see the children (even though they knew one was critically ill at the time), and put black and blue marks all over another one at my sister’s wedding (nope, they weren’t even invited!). Since my parents are so wonderful and loving and so incredibly inclusive of my spouse (who now feels like they are the “real” mom and dad, they go on family vacations and spend time without even me many times), our children luckily have been protected from a lot of the drama and manipulation (we’ll never let them hurt our children again) because they know they have the *best* grandparents in the world (and we don’t even talk about the mean ones).
moonsword says
The secret to surviving my in-laws is to stay busy (ex: painting t-shirts with the little ones, going to movies with the older ones), watching lots of sports on TV and bringing wine and chocolate. ๐
Daniel M says
not married, no inlaws, show sounds interesting
Penny B W says
I’ve been married 23 years and my mother in law is amazing! She has done so much for us. Helped us when we were starting up, treated us to family vacations, just a wonderful, all around caring person! I’m truly blessed!