The secret to the perfect present is preparation and plenty of forethought. Anyone can enjoy a funny DVD or a nice-smelling soap, but there’s an art to getting the best present, the one that won’t ever see the back of a wardrobe. Whoever it is you’re buying for – be it a friend, spouse, sibling or parent – tracking down the best gift they’ve ever received is actually a lot easier than it may sound.
We’ve all had that disappointed feeling when we’re given a gift that lacked the thought behind it – thankfully we can sell jewellery online and keep unopened socks for Christmas stocking fillers. If you love the feeling of giving someone a good present, it can often be overshadowed by the pressure of pinpointing exactly what will make a great gift. In an era of too much choice, Western consumers are actually experiencing negative effects – called the ‘paradox of choice’.
Here are some top tips on how to hone in on that special present:
Listen closely
It may just come as a surprise to you, but those on the receiving end of the present can actually do the hard work for you. We’re constantly talking of things we like, want, need and covet, so many conversations can unearth present ideas. Whether your friend is talking about her favourite pair of shoes breaking, or your husband’s cuff link collection is increasingly finding its way down the sink – the perfect present could come from the horse’s mouth.
Think of your relationship
Every close relationship has its special bonds and memories. Whether you share a hobby, favourite author or memories of a holiday –there’s always something special to draw on. Think about what this person means to you and how this can be reciprocated. If they have cuddled you through a tough time, helped you prepare for a scary interview or inspired you to make a brave move – figure out a way to reciprocate this – perhaps something to help your friend get though an unsettling time.
Consider future plans
If your present-receiver has a holiday booked, or, in fact, anything in the horizon – have a brainstorm as to how a present can fit around this. An upcoming holiday is a great opportunity to arrange a holiday hamper packed with a new book for the plane and summery accessories for the beach.
Similarly, if there is a job promotion or new baby in the near future – a present to make this run smoothly will be very much appreciated.
Think of aspirations and goals
If you know a person well enough to want to invest effort and thought into their present, then you probably know them well enough to know their aspirations and goals. Do they wish they had enough time learn yoga, but are too busy to go to classes? Look at getting a yoga DVD and mat. Have they always wanted to write a book? Get them a nice, posh pen and a few books on how to get started.
Think little
Sometimes, it really is the little things that count. Has your friend perhaps not had time to replace her dried up mascara? Or perhaps you’re buying for someone with no time to themselves, and the simple present of a restaurant and cinema voucher would be a touching present to give? If you’re pondering present ideas for anyone who appears stressed and rushed off their feet – a spa day would probably go a long way.
Whoever you’re buying for – the trick is to perplex them as to how you know exactly what they needed, and why they hadn’t thought of it themselves.
Dezi A says
Wow. What great tips. I always have a hard time coming up with something for my husband, unless I have him straight out tell me what he wants it never seems to be something that excites him. I will be coming back to this every holiday. Thanks!! 🙂
Teresa says
Oh I agree totally with what you are saying. Make sure you always have a note book with you so you can write down things you are hearing.
Betty Baez says
Great tips, I definitely think about what I’m getting hubby for christmas literally the day after that Christmas lol I take note of thing he says he likes or wants and it never fails!
Wendy T says
I like this post. I have always been fond of finding just the right gift. It’s a lot of fun. Well, except for the time I gave my then husband a fake lottery ticket that looked like a million dollar winner as a prank. That was…..not so much fun.